**Fatshimetrie: The Art of Getting Back Up After a Difficult Breakup**
When the curtain falls on a romantic relationship, we usually hope that it means a clean, unambiguous separation. Unfortunately, the reality is often very different. What happens when that ending doesn’t mean a clean break? Maybe you work together, share a religious community, or even live in the same neighborhood. Running into your ex every day can make your grieving process incredibly difficult.
To recover from such a situation, here is what you need to do:
**Recognize Loss**
It is essential to accept the end of the relationship. It is said that the first step in grieving is acceptance. You must accept that the relationship has reached its logical conclusion. It is finished and cannot be resurrected. Nourishing hope is futile.
**Master Detachment**
To move forward, you need to be detached from your ex and everything that happened in the past. As Hilary Jacob Hendel said, “Detachment is not imposing my expectations of what I want them to be, but accepting that they are human beings. Detachment is is not putting myself in the middle, trying to manipulate outcomes for others, but letting others affect their own destiny.”
**Reduce Interactions and Maintain Boundaries**
Avoid communicating with your ex physically or emotionally. If you want to move forward after your ex, you shouldn’t be in constant contact with him. Don’t call him, don’t visit him, don’t even send him messages; you need that space and distance, so avoid it.
**Rely on Support from Friends, Family or Therapy**
Whether the breakup was abrupt or mutual, you need to work on overcoming the issues. Relationships can teach us so much about ourselves. We can discover our flaws or gain wisdom on how to navigate situations. It is a valuable experience that you must face, whether with family or friends.
Now, moving forward after a breakup is never easy, especially when you’re dealing with your ex on a daily basis. However, by recognizing the loss, cultivating detachment and relying on the necessary support, you can gradually regain inner peace and the ability to live your life to the fullest without being held back by the past. Remember, taking a step back and working on yourself is a crucial step in healing and moving forward toward new opportunities and experiences.