But, is it time to challenge these stereotypes and embrace a more nuanced view of masculinity?
Influence of society and social media
Traditional expectations of masculinity in Nigeria are deeply ingrained in societal norms, with a strong emphasis on men as providers, protectors, and decision-makers. These roles, passed down through generations, portray masculinity as synonymous with strength and stoicism. However, in the age of social media, these expectations are amplified and reinforced. Platforms like Instagram and Twitter showcase images and stories of men who epitomize these traditional roles, overshadowing the diversity and complexity of real-life experiences.
However, a growing number of voices online are advocating for a more balanced view of men, one that allows vulnerability and emotional expression. The push for a more modern and emotionally open representation of masculinity creates a tension between holding onto traditional values and embracing a more nuanced understanding of what it means to be a man in today’s world.
Impact of films, TV shows, and books
The Nigerian entertainment industry, from Nollywood to contemporary literature, plays a significant role in shaping the narrative surrounding masculinity and fatherhood. In many films and TV shows, fathers are often depicted as stern, unyielding figures whose authority is rarely questioned. They embody the traditional role of the “head of the family”, emphasizing strength and emotional restraint. While this portrayal may resonate with certain aspects of Nigerian culture, it leaves little room for more nuanced and realistic depictions of fatherhood.
The prevalent image of the “strong, silent” man, who faces challenges without showing any vulnerability, is a common trope. However, there are notable exceptions in both Nigerian and international media that offer a more authentic portrayal of men as emotionally complex and nurturing individuals.
The “strong man” and emotional well-being
The cultural expectation for men to be unwavering pillars of strength in Nigerian society has significant psychological implications. The stereotype of the “strong man,” perpetuated by media and societal narratives, often leads to pressure to suppress emotions, resulting in internal struggles and, in some cases, mental health issues. This facade of invulnerability can leave men feeling isolated and unable to seek support when they are struggling internally.
Psychological studies and expert opinions consistently highlight the detrimental impact of this emotional suppression. It is not uncommon for men to feel trapped by these expectations, leading to increased stress and a reluctance to express vulnerability.
As we enter an era of increased awareness and openness, it is crucial for media and societal narratives to evolve. Embracing and promoting a more diverse and realistic portrayal of masculinity can foster a healthier environment for emotional expression. Let us encourage narratives that celebrate the strength in vulnerability and the courage in seeking support. It is time to redefine what it means to be a man and a father in modern society.